Sunday, August 12, 2007

Blossoming Buds


People who have been married for a year or less are often coined with the term "newlyweds" and newlyweds are said to be in the "honeymoon period." This supposed "honeymoon period" is said to be a time of extreme bliss and is often glorified among many people. When you are first married people say things like, "Aw, you guys are still in the honeymoon period. Everything is perfect now. I remember when we were in the honeymoon period, it was fun but it only lasts awhile and then comes 'the real world' " This greatly disturbs me.

Dirk and I have been together for 6 1/2 years. During that time we grew together, we learned each other's habits, likes, dislikes, etc. We have been in "the real world" for the past 4 1/2 years at the least. Despite all of those years we are still adjusting to life together. Life is blissful because we love each other and we strive everyday to put God first and the other second, not allowing anything to disturb those priorities. For sure things are more fresh and new now, like decorating our first living space and deciding who does what, things are fun and sometimes I do feel like we're "playing house" however we are very much in the real world.

If the first 2 years of marriage are supposedly the best, then why get married? If Dirk and I are making an attempt everyday to please each other now while adjusting to a new life, why should that stop? If a married person can tell me that life is bliss during this time in my life when the marriage bud is just beginning to blossom, then perhaps he/she has forgotten to nurture his/her own blossom. Does not a flower begin as a bud and slowly blossom into a beautiful flower? Is that not what my marriage should do for the rest of my life?

Life is new now and will not always be new but as it ages it will become more and more blissful. As time goes by there will be periods when life seems rough but when I look back on our life together, there are times that life was rough and we made it through those times stronger than ever. It is my goal to never lose sight of the nurturing that a marriage requires. I want to always feel like a newlywed, only better. You can laugh at me and say I am dreaming, but just you watch and see. God is bigger than any stereotype. One day this "dream" WILL be a reality.

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